To be Understood

Because my oldest girl is autistic she is, for the most part, non-verbal.  She can repeat words, but rarely ever uses them to actually communicate.  Cadence is 13 now and I have always tried to be a good student of who she is so I can discern her wants and needs.  If you have children, you know what it is like when your baby cried or your toddler fussed.  They didn’t have the language needed to be specific about their needs but they were letting you know they needed something by other actions.  And as you grew in your experience of parenting you were able to tell what they wanted or needed.  The thing with Cadence is she never left the no language stage.  Her body and mind kept growing and her needs have changed but she still can’t tell me what she wants, so I have to pay close attention.  I never feel more helpless than when she is upset or crying and I can’t figure out what is going on.

One day this week she was getting ready and I told her to put her socks and shoes on and then went to my room to finish getting ready too.  In a couple minutes she came and found me.  She took me by the hand and stood there.  I knew she needed something.  I looked her up and down and then noticed she had on socks but no shoes.  I knew immediately that her shoes had a knot in the laces and she needed my help untying them so she could get them on.  And sure enough she led me to her knotted up shoes and I untied them and she went on with getting ready to go.

It occurred to me that there isn’t another person on the planet that could have looked at her and known exactly what the problem was.  Not because I’m so great, but because I have been her primary care giver her whole life and I know her.  She is my girl.  When she needs something, it doesn’t matter who else is around, she always comes to me first.

There is a beautiful lesson in this.  Sometimes when life is hard and I have problems, there’s only One that I need to go to for help.  I can bypass everything else and go straight to the One that can help me without hesitation.  The scriptures tell us  to “come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most”. – Hebrews 4:16 (New Living Translation).  Jesus is our caregiver.  We are His.  He knows us better than anyone else.  In fact…”your Father knows exactly what you need even before you ask him!” – Matthew 6:8 (New Living Translation)  He is not limited or helpless.  He knows.  And He can do something about it.

Sometimes when I come to God with a need, I don’t even know what to say or how to pray.  I don’t have the words to match the problem and don’t know what the answer is.  And there is an incredible truth in God’s word that I’m so grateful for.  “The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will”. – Romans 8:26-27 (New Living Translation)

When Cadence has a problem she just needs someone that understands what she needs.  It changes everything for her.  And when I have a problem, I need someone who understands me, understands what I need, understands the problem and can do what needs to be done.  I have Someone like that.  And it changes everything.