If Santa is a Christmas tradition at your house, and you’re a parent, you’ve heard or will hear these words at some point…”Is Santa for real?” My 4-year-old, Bria, asked me that question recently and I just stared at her and finally said, “well, what do you think?” That question always stumps me for a lot of reasons.
She kept pressing for answers and I almost broke into a sweat as I was reminded of the botched Santa reveal 2 years ago for my now 7-year-old, Haven. The Christmas that Haven turned 5 she asked me the “is Santa for real” question. And then she pointed her little finger at me and said, “tell the truth!”
You know, I wanted to lie. I really did. I wanted to say, “Santa is for real and you need to believe it until you’re old so he keeps coming to visit.” I wanted to say, “of course Santa is real” because Santa is fun and it brings so much excitement to Christmas and it’s just happier to believe the lie than the boring details that your Christmas presents are hidden in Mom’s closet. But truth is a huge deal to me and my baby asked for the truth. So I told it…………and she responded to my good parenting by tearing up and saying, “No Mom! Not that truth! The truth that Santa is real!!!!”
We are so much like Haven aren’t we? We don’t want the real truth. We want the truth that we like. The one that fits our idea of how life should be. And we do anything we can to protect our version of truth….
- We pretend like our clothes still fit and not that we’ve gained back the 20 pounds we lost.
- We pretend that everything is ok in our marriage so that others don’t know there are problems.
- We just keep moving and working and serving so that we don’t have to admit that there are problems in our world.
- We ignore the signs that something is wrong with our child’s behavior and make excuses for it, even when there is a much deeper issue.
- We keep putting off issues of our health that need to be dealt with in hopes that it will get better on its on.
- We won’t admit we are depressed.
- We go to church religiously to cover the fact that we are spiritually a mess inside and far from where God wants us to be.
- We don’t talk about the elephant in the room, whatever its name may be.
It’s hard to take the real truth sometimes. The truth about our lives, our loves, our hearts, our souls, our minds, our relationships, our issues, our health, our problems. But only the real truth will bring the healing we need.
John 8:31-31 – “Jesus said to the people who believed in him, ‘You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings. And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free’.”